Many instances when it comes time to helping someone we first evaluate by wondering “what is in it for me”? Usually the answer to that question decides whether or not we will help in that situation. What if there was not anything it for you per say? Maybe all you get out it is the smile of a stranger and the chance to help make someone’s day a little brighter. Would you still be game?
“If you have much, give your wealth; if you have little, give your heart.” Anonymous
There is a big pay it forward movement happening, and I love to see many people starting to partake. Doing selfless acts, with no expectation in return is one of the biggest self-esteem boosting things you can do. It feels good to help people, it feels good to do good. Not only do you make someone’s day, but you also get a rush of feel good endorphins that stay with you through your entire day.
When you practice being present, you have a better opportunity to connect with people on an individual level. A few years ago, I was at the gas station and a young man was in line next to me. He started talking to me and asked if I knew what time the bus ran until, it was Sunday and all the routes were over. He told me where he was headed and I gave him directions and went on my way. As I got home into my driveway, I realized how cold it was out and that I had and extra $20. I turned around, found the guy and called him a cab and gave him the $20 bucks so he didn’t have to walk in the cold.
No reason, no reciprocation, just helping someone out who didn’t even ask. The smile that came across his face, was completely priceless, it touched me so deep and had me feeling good for days. This was the start of my own personal “paying it forward” movement. I try and do little things like this as often as I can. I am sharing this because I want other people to experience how good this feels, whether it’s a stranger, friend or family. Don’t scoff at them, be there for them.
I am not saying that you have to give thousands of dollars. I am not saying that that the one person you know who always needs something is the person you need to help. Listen for the people who aren’t saying anything and offer yourself to them. Maybe it’s monetarily, buying someone a food or a ride. Maybe you
just simply offer to help someone who has a tired, cranky toddler get their groceries in the car. Collect school supplies to take to a lower income school. Little things can go a really long way in the long run. When you do good, you feel good- happy helping!